Tuesday Tips: 8 Ways to Be Your Own Best Friend

Queens of Detachment

Tuesday Tips: 8 Ways to Be Your Own Best…

Queens of Detachment

Ever wanted to be the person that gets all the attention, all the compliments, all the love? Ever wanted to be that untouchable girl who floats through life, receiving all the good luck? Turns out it's easy--you just have to not care if you are. Imagine you have a best friend inside of you, who is always praising you and helping you. This best friend inside of you is so wonderful to be around, and so much fun, that you don't care much about what's going on outside of you. Why would you need attention or compliments, if you have a direct line to a blissful relationship already within you?

Creating, cultivating and nurturing that relationship with the best friend inside of you is what self love and self acceptance are all about. For me, it means that I talk to myself like I do in my meditation videos, all day every day (a practice I just started yesterday!). For you, it might mean something else. But if you're craving a life of love, joy, and abundance, look no further than inside your own heart. Connect to that best friend that already lives inside of you (you can think of it as god, or source energy, or your higher self if it helps) and let your life get easier!

Everyone will be asking what your secret is. The people you admire will flock to you. Your love of yourself attracts love from the outside like moths to a lamp. Detach from your external circumstances and attach to your inner supply of love to burn brighter than ever before.

"Lift up the self by the Self
And don't let the self droop down,
For the Self is the self's only friend
And the self is the Self's only foe." ~ Bhagavad Gita 6:5


1. Let it come to you.
Trust that life will give you what you want. Your calm knowing that what you want will come is exactly the signal that attracts what you like. You're not thirsty. You're not needy. You're already full of abundance, and more is coming your way.


2. Get life design insight from graphic design.
This wonderful Abraham-Hicks quote explains why studying and mastering graphic design (or any design discipline) can help inform a life design practice.

Whenever you're trying to understand anything that is as huge as all of the Universe, or as huge as all eternity, all you have to do is bring it back to something simple that you do understand, and ask the questions and apply them. And then you can understand the Whole. Everything that's true of the Whole is true of the individual.

3. Think of approaching weightloss like acne.
Kelly used to have really bad acne. She tried everything to get rid of it--potions, creams, changes in diet. Nothing worked. Over time, it became clear that she was just criticizing herself and it was manifesting as irritated skin. She stopped using all skin treatments and left her diet alone, and over time, her acne disappeared. Imagine approaching weightloss in a similar manner: stop all the calorie counting, weird diets, and over-exercising. Most of all, stop beating yourself up! You can't do anything but change your thoughts. Be nice to your body and it will be nice to you.

4. Stop thinking about what you have to do next.
I realized the other day that often I feel unhappy because I'm caught up thinking about my next obligation, so I can never enjoy the present. It feels terrifying to stop thinking about the next thing I have to do ("What if I forget!"), but it's so blissful to just be here now, enjoying what I have.


5. Feel your inner body.
This is a powerful meditation practice I learned from Eckhart Tolle. Sometimes it's easy, sometimes it's hard. It's an abstract and sort of odd concept, but the idea is that when you feel for the life in your body, you connect to the source within. Imagine feeling your inner body as connecting to the infinite fountain of youth inside you.

6. Feeling hateful towards yourself or your situation?
Sometimes I get so pissed off at myself for being lazy, or overeating, or not "doing" enough. Once I recognize that I'm being a total bitch to myself, I try to go back to the mantra of, "Jessica, I love and accept you exactly the way you are." If I can manage to repeat it enough times, I start feeling better. When I'm beating myself up, what I really want is love and acceptance. I'm the only one who can give it to me.


7. Keep your thoughts off this world.
This is an idea from the 40 Day Prosperity Plan. If you're thinking about your reality, your reality is affecting you. Instead, affect your reality by keeping your thoughts on your connection to source. To practice this, just keep your attention on your breath by thinking, "Breathe in and raise your vibration. Breathe out and release your resistance." Your breath is your source. God is the breath of life.

8. Be happy today.
There's this graffiti around 38th and Guadalupe that says "Be Happy Today." You can't be happy any other time! You can't wait for all the pieces to fall into place to be happy! You just have to choose it now, because it's the only time there is. Even if things aren't going the way you want, you can still choose to be happy. You can choose to feel the way you want to feel, right now. Then, when you start feeling happy, you'll start receiving those happy manifestations you've been wanting so badly.

Jessica Mullen
Living the magick life.