Some weeks I feel like the last person on Earth who should be giving advice. I get wrapped up in my problems, wonder, "Who am I to speak up?!" and want to cry. Lucky for me, I have a connection with the fifth dimension version of myself, who whispers the answers to me when I listen. Right now, she's saying, "Relax! Have fun with it! What's the point of this column if it isn't fun to create?" Right on, sis.
1. Read a book.
Other people's ideas will always inspire more of your own. I just finished You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. Next up is The Wisdom of Insecurity: A Message for an Age of Anxiety by Alan Watts. I'd love to hear any fiction recommendations you might have!
2. Put a "start here" button on your blog.
Emma tweeted this terrific suggestion. Time to write mine! If you're new to my site, here's the deal! First: The homepage is everything I post. Gratitude lists, daily stream-of-consciousness, daily meditations, Tuesday Tips and other articles. To see all my "official" articles, click here. To see all the daily meditation videos, click here. You can use the "Article Topics" dropdown in the right sidebar to sort articles by tag, and for the complete collection of all my positive thinking worksheets, audio discussions, and ebooks, visit the School of Life Design.
3. Roleplay change.
Another Twitter gem, this one from Tingle_ebooks: "IF YOU WANT TO CHANGE, JUST ROLEPLAY THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BE IRL. YOU'LL START GAINING STAT POINTS IN THE AREAS YOU NEED MUCH MORE QUICKLY."
4. Notice other people's successes.
If you want more success in your own life, appreciate the success of others. I had to admit to myself that every time I saw someone announce their victory on Facebook, I got more than a little jealous! But once I decided to appreciate the success of another, seeking out other people's wins became a fun game. When you notice it, you get more of it. And when you're in the habit of noticing other people's success, you'll be able to see your own.
5. Feel good about yourself FIRST, then let your actions follow.
I often base my self-worth on my actions and habits. How was my calorie count? Did I exercise? Am I eating my veggies? If I'm not doing as well as I want to be, I start feeling bad about myself. I've found that if I choose to feel good about myself FIRST, regardless of what I'm doing, then my habits and actions follow. I say to myself, "Jessica I love and accept you exactly the way you are." Then I really feel what that feels like, even if I think I ate too much or didn't do enough work. Then once I'm feeling loving and accepting of myself, I end up eating well and doing all the things I want for myself anyway--without having to try. So instead of loving myself BECAUSE I'm taking care of myself, I love myself first and then take care of myself naturally and effortlessly as a result.
6. Try this mantra: Just be here now.
Just be here now. It feels like waking up in a dream. Welcome!