One day Kelly and I realized the new buzz word driving the School of Life Design brand strategy should be "outlandish". What is the most outlandish thing you could do right now? Why aren't you doing it? The answers you have for why you aren't doing it are probably more important than the act. Is it fear? Is it the "genius-self-sabatoge-itis"? Do something crazy and fail. It's a hell of a lot more fun than not.
1. Make friends.
In the past couple weeks, I've noticed multiple times that I had the opportunity to make a friendly connection with someone and I just didn't. Seeing someone in a store or passing them on the street, I realized that I opted for what felt like a fear-based indifference instead of friendly interaction. That was a missed opportunity. It's always better to make a friend than not, and what would stop me? Only fear. Fear of rejection? Fear that person wouldn't want to connect with me? Why not try? Now that I am aware of the missed opportunities, I intend to take advantage of them when they come. Contrast creates.
2. Have a daily practice.
Choose what you deliberately use to push your creative boundaries--what is something you want to increase your tolerance for? Is it reading books, painting, or playing board games? What you spend your time on every day is what you become good at and enjoy over time.
3. Try this mantra: "I don't have to get involved."
You don't have to try. You don't have to force anything to happen. When you want something, your natural inclination may be to work really hard for it. For example, say you want to date someone. At first you might try really hard to get their attention, to compliment them, and to do favors for them. These things are often not "in the flow". It might feel stressful to be around your crush. You might feel like you're trying a little too hard. You are. If instead you trust the universe will bring you your desire, you know that you don't have to involved. You know true love? It always comes to you. Stay out of the way and let things fall into place. You don't have to get involved.
4. Imagine exactly how you want your life to look next year every day.
If you don't know what you want, it can't come. Picture what you want your home, your job, your relationships, your health, your body, your art, and your free time to look like in December 2014. Thanks to Dr. Sean Sullivan for this tip.
5. Think bigger.
There's always more. You're always going to want more. Zoom out. Remember the shit that was SUPER FUCKING IMPORTANT to you five years ago? Me neither.
6. Don't let it affect you.
Whether it's good or bad, it shouldn't affect you. You are so busy loving yourself and life that it doesn't matter what happens. It's all perfect, it's all in the flow, and you've stepped back from your mind enough to see the big picture. You are your reason for feeling good. One tiny detail of the big picture can never shake your core.
7. Don't take things personally.
A sometimes-annoying aspect of conscious creation is allowing the universe to act in ways that surprise us. We want things to go our way. We want this person to act in this way so we can be happy. But the universe works in ways we can never imagine. When you experience the flow in action, you know that things have a tendency of working out in ways you never fathomed. The universe can do things so efficiently and effectively when we get out of the way and stop pretending we are in charge. When things don't go your way, don't assume someone is slighting you. Assume the universe is at its tricks again. Because the universe is always working in your favor, and when you let it, it can do outlandish things.
8. Be supportive and be supported.
Inspire through the power of your influence. You don't have to do things for people. The presence of your positive vibration in others' lives gives them more than any action you could ever take or any word you could ever speak. Resolve to only ever do what feels the best to you and you will simultaneously give yourself and the world the best you can give. When you unquestionably follow your instincts and always do what feels best to you, your entire reality benefits from the power of your example.
9. Be outlandish.
It's a lot more fun to have fun. Sometimes we limit our conscious creation exercises to the realm of possibility. Why? I find myself sticking to relatively mundane requests when it comes to prepaving exercises. I realize it's because I'm still trying to work within the framework of "real life". But the fun of conscious creation is the crazy miracles. When I have more fun with my creations and stretch the limits of my imagination, I actually find I see more reflections. Expect things you barely believe and see what happens.