Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a collection of this week's epiphanies spun into actionable advice. This week the theme is feeling good about yourself. Do what you want, flaunt your flaws, and take pictures, because you're a star!
1. Bet your life?
My friend Matthew texted this quote by Randy Komisar to Kelly, and it made me so happy about my life. "And then there is the most dangerous risk of all -- the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later."
2. Take pictures of yourself!
When I take the time to photograph myself in a flattering manner (Smile? Check. Good posture? Check.), I'm doing that self-love thing we all hear so much about! Having a good photo of myself, taken today, makes me feel like a superstar!
3. Try this money visualization.
This one was really fun for me, you might like it! From the enigmatic Paradigm Shift: "Try this... Go through the list of numbers below and think of each number as your yearly income. 10000 25000 50000 75000 80000 90000 100000 150000 200000 250000 500000 1000000 At one point the numbers started making you feel a little uncomfortable. Chances are very slim that you will ever rise above that yearly income until you remove the discomfort."
4. Think about yourself in third person.
Gretchen Rubin has an awesome post on why you should treat yourself like a toddler, and think of yourself in third person. For example, "Jessica needs to focus right now, so let's get away from these distractions." Or, "Jessica needs to eat her vegetables or she'll feel sick." Gretchen explains, "The fact is, if you’re dealing with a toddler, you have to plan. You have to think ahead about eating, sleeping, proper winter clothes, necessary equipment, a limit on sweets, etc. Because with a toddler, the consequences can be very unpleasant."
5. Feel some gratitude!
Facebook has the deep QUOTES, man: "What if you woke up today with only the things you thanked god for yesterday?" This idea is a bit of a scare tactic, but it does remind me that what I focus on, I get more of.
6. Love your problems.
Danielle LaPorte always puts things in perspective. "Love your problems — really love them, and the solutions appear." I remember reading something that said, if we all threw our problems in a pile, we would all pick the same ones back up. Deep down, our problems give us our identity. Sometimes it's hard to let go of them because then we wouldn't know who we are. But loving them is a great place to start.
7. Never be thirsty.
You know how everyone's like, "Thirsty bitch, get away from my man!"? Someone who is thirsty is fiending for something, whether it's a person, drug, or food. When you catch yourself fiending for something (health? a relationship? money?), remind yourself that you're no thirsty bitch! The health and relationships and money COME to you. You're already full up!
8. "Make your Right Now Self into someone who, as a habit, rolls out the red carpet for Future Self."
This gem came from Raptitude's Elegant Secret to Self-Discipline. Self discipline and I are on-again, off-again lovers, and lately it's been getting hot and heavy. It all comes down to loving all your selves, past, present, and future, and "rolling out the carpet for Future Self" sounds like a good way to practice the oh-so-timeless art of self love.
What are your favorite was to love yourself this week? Let us know in the School of Life Design Facebook group.