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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly collection of ways to practice positive thinking. As the holidays approach, life can get a little stressful, so this week I have six simple ways to chill out and enjoy this special time.
1. Do the work.
With all the chores, shopping, family visits and deadlines approaching this week, I've found myself getting stressed out about not doing enough, or not being productive enough, or not crossing enough things off my to-do list. But then I remembered that my mood is my work. If I take the time to get in a good mood and align my thoughts with love, I find that all the stressful aspects of life melt away and things get done without me trying. Put how you feel first, and everything else will fall into place. Some ways to do the work are: meditation, exercise, listing what you're grateful for, making art, laughing with friends, sleeping, and smiling.
I asked my friend Kristy for advice on how to keep my energy up at work. She said simply, "pray". It works wonders! Throughout the day, I'll think "I pray that I have a good day. I pray that I have a fun night. I pray that I'm kind. I pray that everything works out." It's a wonderful way to think about what I want, then let go of my desire and put my trust in a higher power.
4. Stop thinking about that thing you want.
It's never going to happen when you're thinking about it. It always comes when you're feeling good and thinking about or doing something else. If you can't stop thinking about it, count.
5. Try this mantra: "I don't give a shit."
This is the single most useful thought I've attracted this week. My friend Kelly was stressed about one of her finals. She studied hard but still felt unprepared. She ended up passing with a better grade than she expected, and when I asked her how she did it, she said, "The night before the exam, I just stopped giving a shit." Not caring is the key to letting go! When you let go of thinking about what you don't want, life can finally bring you what you do want, since you're not blocking the flow with negative thoughts.
6. Stop trying.
Surrender. Let go. Give up. If you're stressed about gift-giving, decide to give up. Make peace with whatever would happen if you didn't find the perfect gift. If you have too much work to do and don't know how to get it all done, let go. Say "I don't give a shit if it gets done" and try to truly feel like that. It's the only way life can help you. You'll never be able to take enough action to compare to the magick life is trying to bring you. Stop fighting the flow and let it come to you. You'll be so relieved when you do!
Share your holiday positivity practice in the School of Life Design group
Every week, I post a link to the tips in the SoLD Facebook group. Share what gets you through the holidays and let us know what tips work best for you on this thread. It's a wonderful group of generous and brilliant life designers who all have a unique perspective that will inspire you love life even more.