Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly list of thoughts that help me remember life is good. In the past week, Kelly and I have joined a second gym, gone zip lining over Lake Travis, spent every waking moment with wonderful friends, and drank our pretty little hearts out. It's felt like a rollercoaster of fun, and at times it's been terrifying. So this week's tips are all about trusting life and letting go—keep your hands and feet inside the boat and just enjoy the ride.
1. Break the rules.
I hear rule breakers have all the fun! Here's a good mantra to set the mood: "My risks always lead to fulfillment." (Thanks for that one Jenny!)
2. Follow the path of least resistance.
Stop trying to control your path and instead allow your path to find you. It's like going over rapids in a river. There is nothing you can do but let go and trust the water will carry you through. Take a deep breath, count to 10 and say yes.
3. Spend the money you have now.
More always comes when you trust that abundance is infinite.
4. Try this mantra: "I don't give a shit."
I was talking to this girl in the line for the bathroom at a restaurant, and she kept saying, "I don't give a shit, I'm going to do it anyway." I was inspired. What would you do if you weren't afraid?
5. Try this mantra: "What, me worry?"
It's the motto of Mad magazine's mascot Alfred E. Neuman. Worrying is just wishing for what you don't want.
6. Feeling terrified?
Fear is an indicator that you're on the right path. It's just excitement with the brakes on. What would you do if you weren't afraid?
7. Feeling suicidal?
If you want to give up on life, know the feeling is actually an indicator that you should give up on trying to control life. Life is hard when you try to force things, or when you wish things were different. If you've reached the point of wanting to give up, look at it as a permission slip to follow your wildest dreams, whims and fantasies. It's an opportunity to stop caring about what other people think and channel your pain into fearlessness. Fuck all that shit that makes you feel bad! Life is so fun when you live each day like your last. And if you've thought about suicide, then you have easy access to that carpe diem feeling. #YOLO
8. Having an extreme freakout?
First, count to 200 as fast as you can. Kelly had to force me to do this the other night so I would stop screaming and crying. Then she asked me, "Are you ok in this right now?" And yes, of course I was. You're always ok in the right Now. And you always will be. Don't waste your energy on fearing the worst.
9. Want to feel loved?
Project the love you want to receive. I was feeling neglected, and I knew that I was only pushing people away by trying to get their attention. Instead of doing things to make people love you, give them love first. I started saying in my head, to everything and everyone I saw, "I love you." It gave me such an overwhelming sense of unity with my world. Every small speck in the floor I said "I love you" to, I followed up with, "You're doing such a great job being that little speck! You're not insignificant!" The more I kept the thought pattern up, the more I heard the words "I love you" come back to me. From Emily's meditation notes: "Don’t wait for love—you are love."
10. Let go of your attachment to people, things and beliefs.
I also found these gems in Emily's meditation notes. David Simon says, "Your attachment to people, things, and beliefs makes you feel vulnerable when they fail to meet your expectations." Here's a mantra to help you let go: "As I surrender the need to influence, and love what is, my life gets better and better."
11. Be happy with what you have and who you are.
You are perfect right now. You have everything you need to get where you want to go. You are in the right place at the right time. It couldn't have happened any other way. Project the feeling that you already have everything you want and you'll find you already do.
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