Gratitude vs appreciation, inspired by @sidawson

Gratitude vs appreciation, inspired by @sidawson

Si Dawson wrote a thought-provoking post on gratitude versus appreciation which really made me reconsider my gratitude practice. Gratitude always works for me, but I think it works because it puts me in a feeling of general appreciation of my life. As I commented on Si's site, I think gratitude is like thanking something outside of yourself, while appreciation is more like knowing you created it. However, when I'm mind-identified, sometimes it's easiest to go with the limiting belief that something outside of myself can help me feel better. Gratitude is like a way of tricking the mind into appreciation.

Abraham has an awesome interpretation that I can't help but quote (pg 193-194 of Money and the Law of Attraction):

Appreciation is the vibration of alignment with who-you-are. It is the absence of resistance. It is the absence of doubt and fear. It is the absence of self-denial or hatred toward others. Appreciation is the absence of everything that feels bad and the presence of everything that feels good. When you focus upon what you want–when you tell the story of how you want your life to be–you will come closer and closer to the vicinity of appreciation, and when you reach it, it will pull you toward all things that you consider to be good in a very powerful way.

Conversely, let us talk about the difference between, let us say, gratitude and appreciation. Many people use the words interchangeably, but we do not feel the same vibrational essence in them at all, because when you feel gratitude, often you are looking at a struggle that you have overcome. In other words, you are happy that you are still not in the struggle, but there is still some of that "struggle" vibration present. In other words, the difference between inspiration, which is being called to who-you-are, and motivation, which is trying to make yourself go somewhere, is a similar difference.

Appreciation is that tuned-in, tapped-in, turned-on feeling. Appreciation is a vibrational alignment with "who I have become." The state of appreciation is "me being in sync with the whole of which I am."


A state of appreciation is a state of Godliness. A state of appreciation is being who-you-really-are. A state of appreciation is who you were the day you were born and who you will be the moment you die, and it would be (if we were standing in your physical shoes) our quest in every moment.

With that, here are things I appreciate!
I appreciate being home alone late on a Friday night with my wife. I appreciate how observant I am of my thoughts, that I was able to notice my vibration dropping and actually do something about it for once, instead of giving up on feeling good for the night and going unconscious. I appreciate the amazing conversation available to me online, especially in the School of Life Design Facebook group. I appreciate how my breath is an indicator of alignment. I appreciate that it gets difficult to breathe when I allow my vibration to drop. I appreciate that I have such an immediate red flag. I appreciate that I am able to interpret the signals the universe constantly sends me.

I appreciate that it's getting easier to love myself. I appreciate that I don't have to go unconscious to eat. I appreciate how much I've been lifestreaming lately. I appreciate how much lifestreaming helps me focus. I appreciate being on the leading edge of thought. I appreciate being able to synthesize information into a feeling. I appreciate being able to interpret astrology and dreams. I appreciate it when Kelly interprets my dreams when I can't. I appreciate Kelly so much! I appreciate how she takes care of the chores and inspires me to help (instead of "motivating" me to help). I appreciate how she lets me cook for her. I appreciate how she gives me constructive criticism. I appreciate her laugh and her hard-core-ness. I appreciate her affinity for hiphop. I appreciate that we have a shared interest in music. I appreciate her willingness to embrace change.

I appreciate finding new shortcuts to feeling good. I appreciate finding new ways to direct my thoughts that feel better than anything before. I appreciate these current thought-direction prompts:

  • I appreciate...
  • I want ______ to feel like...
  • I am... (desires stated in affirmation form)
  • Dear Jessica, I love you and you're doing great... (a love letter to myself from the perspective of source, or a friend)

I appreciate having an outlet for creation. I appreciate my job. I appreciate getting to spend over 20 hours a week with the best graphic designers in the world. I appreciate everything I get to learn from them. I appreciate their intelligent and adorable children. I appreciate our friendship. I appreciate our jokes. I appreciate the comfort of the workplace. I appreciate that I get to bike to work! I appreciate that I CAN bike!

I appreciate all the thoughts I have that help me release resistance, like my 12 personal commandments, especially "thy will be done." I appreciate that Kelly and I have homemade chili to eat for a midnight 2am snack. I appreciate that I can allow myself to enjoy my food. I appreciate being able to eat whatever I want. I appreciate having a digestive system of steel. I appreciate my health. I appreciate stepping outside of my mind and donning the perspective of source. I appreciate how trippy life is. I appreciate the lessons I get to learn every day. I appreciate how good it feels to feel good.

I appreciate my efforts to feel good. I appreciate the power of my focus, the power of my beliefs. I appreciate how it's getting easier to focus on what I want. I appreciate how it's getting easier to visualize what I want. I appreciate how far I've come. I appreciate how much more I like myself now. I appreciate how when I think of myself, I feel love instead of a knee-jerk self-hatred. I appreciate that it's getting easier to be kind to myself. I appreciate the value of practice. I appreciate the reliability of practice. I appreciate this Now. I appreciate that I can breathe. I appreciate that I took the time to notice my trouble breathing and addressed it. I appreciate that I can now breathe. What sweet relief.

Jessica Mullen
Living the magick life.