In The Power of Intention, Wayne Dyer tells a story about convincing an airline employee to allow him to take an extra bag on his flight. He ends the interaction with the extra bag on board and a ticket upgraded to first class. The way he convinced the woman was by looking at her with love.
Everyone wants to feel loved. When you make someone feel loved, they want to do nice things for you. Choosing to feel unconditional love for those around you is neither selfish nor selfless; it simply produces a symbiotic relationship where both parties benefit.
I like to think of it as a game. Dyer takes a similar approach–by the end of the interaction with a surly someone, his goal is to have her eating out of his hand.
How to play
- The game is always on!
Sometimes the hardest part is remembering to play. Practice whenever you can. Take any mundane task, like returning an item to a store, and turn it into a challenge. How much can you gain from this situation?
- Use eye contact.
Your eyes are your most powerful tool. When you gaze into someone's eyes, think about sending them love. You don't have to over-complicate it, just think "I'm sending you love." Practice on yourself in the mirror. It feels good.
Eye contact PLUS smiling? Talk about disarming! Smiling says "I'm on your side. I'm having a good time. I want to be friends. I'm human too. Let's work this out."
- Shoot EXTRA love at douchebags.
Get over your pride and be compassionate towards people you feel don't deserve it. First of all, they are only reflecting something that's active in YOUR vibration. Your thoughts did create this situation. Second, winning over a so-called d-bag earns you extra points because it's a harder challenge. And once you clean up your negative vibration about a situation, you never have to deal with it again.
For example, picture waiting in line to renew your driver's license. If your expectation is that the process will be arduous and unpleasant, then it probably will be. But if you choose to interact with love, your experience will go very smoothly. Then the next time you go to the DMV you will have a positive expectation, ensuring a more pleasant experience each successive visit.
Play to win!
When you are successful at this game, you'll know it. You'll get everything you ask for. People will bend over backwards to do you favors. Try playing the next time you go to the supermarket or gas station. Every experience can have surprisingly fun results with the right attitude!
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