Lesson 2: Designing the Digital You

you can't get it wrong and you'll never get it done

Lesson 2: Designing the Digital You

you can't get it wrong and you'll never get it done
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Jessica Mullen
Living the magick life.
  • SeaCSS

    Great article, very nice post. thank you very much.

  • Emma Marie

    I just want to say thank you so much for doing what you do and being who you are. Earlier today I was feeling really down and I listened to you and Kelly rampage on The Popular Podcast and totally binged on the videos/audio while doing my work and now everyone is looking at me all freaky because I’m sitting in the corner beaming!

    Also I love what your doing here. It’s really inspiring and awesome and I can’t wait to get started.

  • jessica mullen

    Thank you Emma Marie! You totally made my day! So glad you’re enjoying TPP, we have so much fun doing it :] Let me know if there’s anything I can do to help you get started!

  • jessica mullen

    And thanks for stopping by SeaCSS!

  • Gen

    The mp3 track made me smile :) I can relate to what you say completely. I love how you guys get so excited about everything! Thank you.

  • jessica mullen

    Thanks Gen! We love making the mp3, it’s the last part and most fun to make :]

  • Lauren Lionheart

    Jessica, that was flipping brilliant! This post *totally* resonated with me. All of those ideas have served me well, and so they’re what I encourage others to do. Especially love your comments about “privacy” being a manifestation of fear, discovering your *unique* passion & all the post ideas. This info is going to spark so many newbie breakthroughs!

    One thought I would like to add is the website as Higher Self vs current self. My experience has been that there are aspects of the current self that will ask insistently to be shown on the website. Following your intuition will let you know which ones can help you along your journey, while others are more like echoes from an old life. Some parts of our journey are very appropriate to write about online, and serve as a personal healing tool as well as bonding our readers to us.

    Here’s how I distinguish whether a part of “current me” is ready to shine on my website: Can I describe the lesson I learned from it? If so, onto the blog it goes! If I’m still mucking about in the issue and feeling confusion, fear, anger, etc. about it… then I keep marinating until the lesson makes itself clear.

    How about you, Jessica? How do you determine what “current me” stuff makes it online?

    Thanks for sharing your awesome insights and look forward to reading more…



  • Lauren Lionheart

    Oh, one more thing. As I’m about to bookmark this post to StumbleUpon, I don’t see any social media sharing buttons. That’s proven to be an absolutely critical part of extending my online reach/tribe. I’m curious if not having them is strategic or if you’re going to add them soon.

  • jessica mullen

    Holy moly, your comments are spot on! Thank you so much for such a thoughtful response. You are right, some experiences of the current self are integral to bonding with readers, and also for personal processing and growth. I agree with what you said about how to choose – “Can I describe the lesson I learned from it? If so, onto the blog it goes! If I’m still mucking about in the issue and feeling confusion, fear, anger, etc. about it… then I keep marinating until the lesson makes itself clear.”

    That is exactly how I look at it – by attempting to extract “lessons learned” from my experiences, it causes me to look at potentially negative experiences with a positive light. For example, being miserable about having to wake up early on Monday caused me to write a post about 5 ways to love Mondays (https://jessicamullen.com/2010/03/01/5-ways-to-love-mondays/)

    Being able to be in a positive emotional state when I write a post is so important. I think that might be the simplest way I can look at it – if I can write the post and feel good while doing it, I know I’m doing the right thing. If I feel crappy or negative, I’m off track.

    The one exception would be for publishing things that make me slightly uncomfortable for being too open–often those are posts that resonate most deeply with others.

    Also, thanks for the social media sharing button idea – I’ve avoided it so far because I hate slowing down my site with more plugins, but you suggesting it now makes me realize how important it is anyway! Do you have any WordPress plugin suggestions? I’m about to go look!

    Thank you for the stimulating conversation!

  • jessica mullen

    Hey Lauren, got the social plugin going, thanks again for the suggestion :D

  • Erica Lee

    You have totally stepped up your content & just everything with this series you’re writing! I can’t stop smiling because it’s just SO creative, brilliant & just…makes so much sense. I love it. Love it. Love it.

    P.S. Remember when I sent you that Twitter msg about an interview? I am working on my pitch now, so if you’re still up to it, let me know :)

  • jessica mullen

    Thank you thank you thank you! I have been so excited to work on all this, and it brings me so much joy that it resonates with you!

    Definitely still interested in the interview, keep me posted!

  • Allison

    “And by asking publicly on the Internet, you are making it easier for yourself to believe that things can be orchestrated for you.”

    Aaaah! This is so true! How come I never though of this before?! You’re making me want to start a blog again. I love the idea of streaming your higher self!

    Can’t wait for lesson three.

  • jacqueline dandelion

    i love the beautiful graphics you have all over this place.

    thank you for your sage advice!this life design business is so totally on the pulse of the zeitgeist, in my opinion. very sweet merging of the law of attraction and online presence. brilliant!
    i immediately re-read my about page and had to change a bunch of things. “too honest for my own good” was the first thing i took out, wtf was i thinking?! i am fucking honest AND its for my own good!
    ok, thanks dude, keep up the good work! <3

  • jessica mullen

    Allison, glad the “asking on the Internet” part made sense to you! I’d love to see you start a blog, get crackin girl! Lesson 3 is coming out soon, maybe tomorrow :]

    Jacqueline, right on! So pleased to hear the way you phrased it as a “merging of the law of attraction and online presence,” now I have something concise to say when I talk about what I’m doing ;] EXCELLENT About page changes, only say what you want to be true!

    Besos lovely ladies!

  • nicalyse

    I’m so intrigued by what you’re doing with this series, and I find it incredibly thought provoking (a phrase becoming increasingly more meaningless, but true nonetheless).

    About two years ago, I dedicated myself to being a more positive person in my presentation of myself, particularly through my blog. There are some inconsistencies, but I can see a marked difference in myself and those around me following that decision. I feel like stepping into some of the suggestions you make here could be the next step; moving beyond grief into positivity was step one, and it took time, but it’s time to keep going, right?

    Lovely stuff. I’ll be paying attention to what comes next and considering your advice when making decisions regarding the future direction of my blog.

  • jessica mullen

    Hi Nicalyse! Thanks for reading. I’m so glad to hear you’re inspired to keep going on your journey, it would be hard to turn around right?

  • Stacey

    Ok, I’m following directions and doing my homework! I made a new blog and even gave you credit for the inspiration :) Thanks!

  • jessica mullen

    Yay Stacey! Doesn’t a new beginning feel so refreshing? I loved reading your About page! Enjoy the journey… I know you will find so much joy in it!

  • venus voulu

    way to live the Universal Laws and remind us all of Who We Really Are!

  • Reenay

    Man, this is awesome.
    This particular article is just what I needed to be reading right now :)

  • Samara

    hi there – you’re website is exactly what i have been needing and looking for. you have inspired me to start my own tumblr and actually keep with it. its something i need (and deserve) to do for myself – whether or not anyone else reads or likes it. so THANK YOU and lots of love! <3

  • jessica mullen

    Samara, AWESOME! I’ve subscribed to your tumblr, can’t wait to see more!

  • Rhina

    Jessica, you are the first person to post a comment on gilt clover!!!

    Thank you.

    Life is truly so awe-mazing.

    Stay flowing~

  • jessica mullen

    Rhina, “stay flowing” is an AWESOME valediction!

  • elisha

    Another great lesson from a wonderful teacher. Thanks again Jessica. I’ve been working on my site for over a week now and I think I’m finally at the point where I’m ready to share, because I can’t get it wrong and I’ll never get it right. Right? :) http://beneaththeclovers.com

    I’m eager to hear what you think…I’ve still got so much work ahead of me, but it’s very enjoyable (just like you said it would be). You Rock!!! Oh and I would love to put up an advert for the School of Life Design – if you will let me?? :\

  • jessica mullen

    Aw thanks Elisha! Your site is looking so so beautiful! I love the aesthetic you’re working with. And so functional, you have everything and it’s all organized! Thank you for posting about theveganstoner.com, omg new favorite site!

    I am so happy for you, now that you have the foundation your digital abundance will flourish and bloom like the most beautiful flower! Thank you for sharing your progress with us. I subscribed to your feed, can’t wait to see what unfolds!

    I really want to hear more about the eco-dome and the sustainable community you’re starting. I would love to see some articles/posts on that.

    If you want to link to the School, I would also love that! Here is a banner,


    And you can use this for the link:

    Thank you! Have a beautiful day!

  • elisha

    Thank you for all your kind words Jessica. I’m glad you like theveganstoner.com :)

  • Kayla

    http://kaylacm.tumblr.com/ is my new positivity / lifestreaming tumblr!

  • jessica mullen

    love it! subscribed!

  • Jessica Wagstrom

    You’ve inspired me to re-vamp my blog. :)

    I found it a new theme, added a page to link it to my “professional” website (so I’m all connected!) and tweaked the header image a little. I’m not a graphic designer, but oh well!

    It’s sad, but I kind of miss geocities…I really knew where I stood with html, this drag and drop stuff makes me feel a little less in control. Maybe it’s time to dig into the guts of web design.

  • jessica mullen


    If you need serious web help, check out the forum! (You can peep it here https://jessicamullen.com/the-school-of-life-design-store/)

    But I promise you can do it on your own too! Anything you need to know is google-able – and there are a bazillion forums and places to get help.

    SO GREAT TO MEET YOU! So happy to be following your site and writings!

  • Kiriko

    Hey! In response to what Kelly said why voicing positive expectations and setting public intentions works– hopefully this will further clarify this concept for newbs, as realizing the following was crucial to my understanding.

    Setting strong/public intentions work because when you do so, you’re more likely to act in a manner consistent with your belief/desire and notice opportunities that lead to your desired reality.

    That’s how synchronicity works, too. When you’re open and emotionally ready for a solution/change, you are able to see the opportunity when it appears in front of your face.

    Once, a self-proclaimed cynic told me that synchronicity “only” works because you’re looking for the things that you want to see and that’s why you see them– for example, I see 111 and smiling dogs everywhere– and I was like, Yeah duh, exactly. The world is literally INFINITE and you can either train your brain to look for things you like or the things you don’t like.

    (Moral: Keep this in mind when cynics try to talk you down from your magic. He was totally RIGHT, he just didn’t know how to feel GOOD about it. Cynics are people who don’t trust themselves.)

    Great series so far. Inhaling it all as fast as I can and forwarding it to so many people. Thanks Jessica!

  • jessica mullen

    Kiriko, you are brilliant! I read what you wrote about synchronicity to Kelly and we got a good laugh out of it ^_^

    I love this part especially: ” The world is literally INFINITE and you can either train your brain to look for things you like or the things you don’t like.”

    I am open and ready for change. Thanks for the new mantra!

    So grateful to hear you’re spreading the word! Thank you so much for the support Kiriko!

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